I used the questioning a lot when looking at the logic model which was a good thing, because we discovered differences in information provided to each of us - as I mentioned at our last session.
In general, I am working to always start with something positive. I also plan to use "and" more in place of "but" or "however".
Colleen and I did well before, but I think these suggestions will be beneficial and all of my communication situations. The questioning will continue to be especially beneficial for Colleen and me as I can better tailor my feedback to areas in which she may be struggling.
I think we can all use help "managing our superiors", for lack of a better way to put it. We've talked a lot about this and for the most part we've come up with checking in regularly or finding a non-offensive way to go over their heads. I don't think anyone really likes to go over their heads so what else can you do when regular check-ins bear no fruit? This has been a challenge in the mentor/mentee relationships, but in the everyday course of work, we can also run into situations where we are stalled until we get their feedback/input/action.
I also use questioning when working with a mentor. It's importantly to fully understand where they are coming from before you start to critique their work. It's sometimes a challenge to start with something positive, but if I slow down and chose my words wisely, I am able to word changes in a positive manner. I haven't had much experience with one on one mentoring, but from what I've shared, I think I was helpful...
We have been using a lot of the questioning method as well. Not only does it help us to understand their thought process, but it also allows them to think about it in a different light - think about things they thought were obvious or that they might not have thought about altogether. At times, one of our T1s becomes almost defensive when we ask questions, but she is coming around!
Starting with a positive is good but at times I feel like the people we are mentoring are almost waiting for the negative after the positive.
It also helped that our T3 got more involved and assisted us in setting some additional meeting times.
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